well today i received an email from the ex-wife.
*takes a moment* lets think of a name for her because although she’s slowly being weened out of my life she is the mother of my three children and thus she may pop up from time to time. sanaa *drool*? nah the feelings i have for sanaa lathan *drool* just dont translate well. ahhh…i got it. vivica fox! a woman i used to think was the absolute bomb yet over the recent years i’ve grown to do nothing but shake my head when i think about what she’s become. yeah…that fits to a tee.
so vivica sends me a quick email giving me a few updates on what she’s doing with june’s child support as well as some future plans she has for the children’s summer.
just a little background info to bring you up to speed. i met vivica when i was a mere 19 yo pup and she was 23. a gorgeous woman with strong native american features. at the time she was into women and had been since a child only being with one other man her entire 23 years on this planet until me. because of her sexual preference i more so saw her as one of the fellas. a sexy 5′ 9″ fella with a dancers body and a nice silver jetta. i never thought much about her in terms of a relationship even when my fellas informed me that all she was doing (inviting us oer to her house all the time…taking us out for drinks…making us feel like family) was all because she was interested in me (*note* i mentioned in the last episode that i was damn near clueless when it comes to picking up on hints that i’m the subject of anyone’s admiration…and believe me my new friends it started at a very young age). i remained clueless denying the suggestion until one summer afternoon. i entered her house to find my two best friends sitting in the top floor living room of her DC duplex watching television and drinking red wine (the staple of her existence). when i asked where vivica was i was informed that she was downstairs and asked me to come down and say hi when i got there. still clueless i walked down stopping just outside of her closed bedroom door. *tap tap tap*…”vivica. you in there? its mars.” i heard a simple “yeah. come in.” from the other side. as i opened the door i caught her with her back towards me…one leg up on the bed…totally naked lotioning her freshly showered skin. yes…”uhhhhhhhh” is all i could seem to get out as i stood there unable to look away. hahahah! now that i think back on it i’m sure she had to have liked me at the time because my drop-jawed gawking ass standing there frozen in time could not have been an attractive sight…lol. it was that day…right in the middle of her extremely enthusiastic orgasm that one of my best sexual relationships began (and believe me my new friends i’m not bragging…she’s always been able to finish strong with little to no help from me).
*we’ll get deeper into the relationship that developed at another time friends*
what was i talking about again…oh yes…today’s email. i bring it up because after listing her plans a suprising paragraph followed which gave me a bit of insight that had not known before.
here’s an exerpt…
“on a side note, i was just telling my husband that the only quantitative memory i have as a married adult comes from my life with you. spending 10 years with you is the default in my mind when it comes to marriage and life with the kids. so dont think that it doesnt mean anything or that i dont have love for you. that should be understood. we have just chosen different paths.”
not much to the average reader…i know…but as a man once married to this woman i have NEVER heard these words uttered from her verbally or in written form since our divorce and it was an extreme shock to see them staring up at me. we are much greater friends now than we have been since we got married but this is something that has never come up. 7 years and 4 husbands later i’m taken aback by the statement. to know from her that i have had that affect on her life. hell that i may even be the yardstick that all these guys have been measured against is quite a boost to the old male ego. once again not to brag but i’ll be damned if i wasnt an awsome ass husband…lol…after all it was i who divorced her and not the other way around for a reason.
so i just wanted to share that with you all as it was still with me. boy i’m really feeling my super-sexy right now…lol.
see you guys next time. be good to yourselves and eachother.
mars
